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When you are young, traveling by yourself as a student can be a daunting experience. However, it can be one of the most amazing Times of Your Life, so you need to try at least what it means to travel.

A different perspective on life

When you in a different culture and a different environment, you learn new things much more quickly, and some different ideas and perspectives will stand out. This will allow you to learn a different way of looking at life. Sometimes you might even end up realizing where you truly belong. You’d be surprised how much your environment and your culture Affects your thought process and how you view life. So if you have been exposed to one thing your whole life how will you know what you believe in and what you stand for.

Managing finances and money

When you are traveling on the road if you’re not careful with your finances, it can dry up pretty quickly, which is why you will learn some sense of managing your own money and planning for things. This will help you understand the value of money and spending your finances all items that are worthwhile and important. You don’t necessarily have to be frugal and cheap all the time, but at least you will understand when you should splurge and when to save your money for something else.

Education is not the same as learning

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When you meet enough people and when you see enough things, you more than likely to realize that education is not the same thing as learning and growing as a person. Education becomes more of a certificate that proves you can follow orders and do as you’re told. However, real learning and true education is actually fun and gives you joy. Travel can be one of your most excellent teachers you should decide to learn from your travel experiences.

Work opportunities abroad

I would advise you to stay in hostels or partake in events that are related to culture or just something that will allow you to meet both locals and other expats. Networking is one of the most important things when it comes to finding a job. You’ll be surprised what kind of connections you can make and what kind of opportunities you can create for yourself if you are open to it.

More self-esteem

When you travel by yourself sooner or later, you will learn how to make new friends. When you can easily make new friends and meet people your conference grows, and you build up a sense of self-worth and self-esteem.

Problem-solving and resourcefulness

There is bound to be problems and hiccups on the road but enough experience in exposure you will develop a keen sense for problem-solving and using your resources optimally. Sometimes your phone battery will die, or you will lose your belongings, but it falls on you to solve those issues. You’d be amazed how resourceful and sharp you become when it’s a do or die situation.

Maturity and independence

You’re no longer a kid now. Your travel experiences will teach you how to become an adult and take care of yourself. Who else is going to do your laundry make your food, not your parents, so either you have to figure it out or have nothing to wear and eat,
At our blog for travelers, we help you make your preparations.
  • Cruises offer you the chance to go to many different places during your travels. Cruises have some of the greatest activities, both on the ships and in port. You can find tips on all kinds of traveling in this article.
  • After picking your destination, research the area thoroughly. Make sure you have a map, and know what attractions are must-sees in the area. Remembering a little about the area will make navigation easier when you get there.
  • To assist in minimizing your travel budget, purchase arrangements far in advance. Despite the different ways you can spend your money on your travels, many share one feature: the earlier you buy them, the cheaper they are. Try not to do things at the last minute in order to have more money left in your budget later.
  • When traveling to a country that requires certain vaccinations, be sure and carry the paperwork indicating you’ve had them with you. You never know when you may need it, so it should be on your person at all times. If you don’t have your certificate, authorities may quarantine you until they can verify you are telling the truth.
  • Only pack the essentials. The fewer things carried, the less the chances of having the items stolen or lost. Try not to carry on too many shoes as these can be a burden.
  • Take a doorstop if you are staying at a hotel. A doorstop is just a rubber or wooden wedge that will hold a door open, but can easily hold a door shut as well.
  • Work off your flying anxiety with a jog before you head to the airport. Long flights are taxing on your body and nerves. Remaining in a stationary position can cause stiff muscles and cramps. By having a speedy workout, or even stretching before your flight, you are reducing your chances of getting these cramps.
  • Hotel staff like room service staff and the bell hop are paid meager salaries and tips are very much appreciated. People generally recommend a buck per bag for the bellhop and $2-5 per day for the maid. Doing so will ensure that you have a nice relationship with both during your hotel stay.
  • Put identifying information inside your bags, as well as on the outside. The luggage tag may be ripped off during transit. If your luggage gets lost and lacks any tags, try putting some identifying information inside it so that it may be found and given back to you quickly.
  • Carry matches or a business card from the hotel with you. If you become lost, you can show it to a local and get directions back to the hotel. It is very important, especially if you are unsure of the local language.
  • A motorcycle is a good mode of transportation for day trips. The ride is enjoyable, it uses little gas and can move quickly. Using a motorcycle for trips can be lots of fun.
  • When making a hotel reservation, ask if the hotel is doing any renovations. Nothing ruins a vacation faster than being woken up with the noise of loud construction equipment. Try to avoid any renovation dates.
  • Think long and hard about melting the ice available to you to brew your cup of strong caffeine each morning. Tap water is not always the best tasting option, so fill up the ice bucket with lots of ice to melt overnight. When you wake up in the morning you will be able to brew fresh coffee with decent tasting filtered water.
  • If you are taking a road trip with children, bring along a cookie sheet or two. You can use them as a table on which to draw or play a game. You can also bring along magnetic numbers and letters if you want to have a bit of educational fun.
  • To rent a car you must be 18 or older, but some companies go even further and set the minimum at 25. Drivers younger than that usually pay higher rates and have to give a credit card number as security. There may also be restrictions against senior citizens. Be sure you ask what the age requirements are before making reservations.
  • If you are flying for several hours, pack a few snacks. Fresh snacks will be better on your plane ride than the food they offer. You will save some cash doing this, and you will be the envy of your fellow passengers.
  • Force yourself to stay awake at least until early evening in order to acclimate better after you change time zones. You’ll be tired that day, but staying up will force you to adjust to the new time zone. Sleeping when you get tired will just lengthen the adjustment time period. You can get rid of your jet lag quicker by adjusting as soon as possible to the current time zone.
  • When you travel overseas, take along an extra passport photo. If you lose your passport or it gets stolen, it can take time to replace it. Having a spare will make life easier. Also, keep any documentation you will need.
  • If you will be traveling to a different country, make up some cards in the local language that state any foods you may be allergic to. This will give your server a good idea of what you are able to eat. You can truly enjoy dining in your destination by using these cards.
  • Try to get a hotel room on a upper floor. Bottom and ground floor rooms are more accessible to potential thieves. Additionally, request a room that has a window but not sliding glass doors. They are much easier for thieves to access.
  • As you read in the above article, taking a cruise is the best way to experience many different places when traveling. Whether at sea or in port, there is always something fun going on. Implement these tips and maximize your upcoming travels.
Traveling in America can be quite expensive if you go the usual route by staying in hotels or even motels for the matter. Here is a guide on how I managed to travel across America on $ 20-30 per day including a place to stay. You will need to be savvy with the internet because you will have to sign up for websites like greyhound, megabus, spirit airlines, hostelworld, and couchsurfing.

Finding Cheap Transportation

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The go to website for cheap transportation are Greyhound, Spirit Airlines, Amtrak, and Megabus. They usually have tickets for very cheap prices and sometimes have discounts or offers that allow you to book a ticket for $1 only.

Booking Bus Tickets

I in fact was able to book $1 bus ticket from Detroit to Houston with Megabus because of their amazing discount offer that they have once every while. The trick to finding better prices and deals is to book your departure dates on workdays and hours that not a lot of people book on. For example, booking a flight or a train ticket on Tuesday, Thursday very early in the morning, or very late at night will usually give you the cheapest prices.

Deals on Flight Tickets

When it comes to finding flight tickets for cheap, you should check out JetBlue or Spirit Airlines. You can find flight tickets less than $100 one-way from one side of USA to the other. Signing up with their credit card for the mile benefits is always nice, and when you rack up enough points, you get free flights. They do expire, but it’s perfect for someone who is touring around the U.S. Be warned though, if you are not a minimalist, you will be charged extra on luggage and additional items that the ticket does not cover, so read their policy on what you are covered for very carefully. Sometimes there are delays and change in departure terminal without much notice, so it is riskier than buying flight tickets from airliners that are geared towards customer service. But hey, you get what you pay for. You need to get from point A to point B? Then they will do the job.

Hitchhiking

I never went hitchhiking, but have met travelers who got free rides from people out on the road. You always want to exercise some caution nonetheless. If you are a young attractive female with a lot of valuables, maybe it is not the best idea, but hitchhiking does make a good travel story, so it is up to you. There are other travelers who are willing to split the bill on gas and take you to your destination for much cheaper though, so sharing rides with other people is another option. There are in fact apps that allow you to find people going in the same direction. Try Blablacar.

Budget Accommodations

You may not find the most comfortable nor the cleanest places to stay however if you need a place to crash, then these are your best options for finding cheap alternatives.

Staying in Hostels

I highly recommend staying in hostels because you will be able to find amazing deals for very cheap prices for reasonable accommodation. As I said hostels are not the most comfortable nor the cleanest however you will have the opportunity to meet people from all walks of life from different countries. You will have to share a room with strangers so it is best to have a lock and take precautions to not lose any valuables and belongings. Depending on which hostel you stay in it can cost you around $10 up to $30 or more. The best value are usually found in new hostels or somewhere in the middle in price range. You have a place to stay and reasonable comfort. If you don’t care much about location, then booking hostels away from the city centre and touristy places can be a bit cheaper.

Couchsurfing

Many people have amazing experience with couchsurfing because not only do you get a free room but sometimes if the hosts are nice enough you can have a guide for free. Just install the app Couchsurfing, and you can find events as well hosts who are willing provide you a place to crash for free. However, you should be careful and do your due diligence by checking out their social accounts, their online activity if you want to be safe than sorry, especially if you are a female. There are some weird stories out on the internet.

Preparing Cheap Foods

Cooking your own meals are the cheapest alternative if you don’t want to spend much money. For $ 3-4 you can make a decent meal that is healthy for you. If you are a vegan or a vegetarian then, it is going to be even more cheaper.
If you don’t know how to cook, instead of eating out at fast food joints, buy processed and pre-packaged foods. Although they are not the most healthy foods in the long run, at least you won’t go hungry. Side note: Sometimes hostel guests cook together and buy in bulk which make it a lot cheaper. Or the hostel itself prepares breakfast, lunch, or dinner for reasonable prices as well. That’s pretty much it! Happy travels!
I have been a pretty sheltered boy from a very young age and have not really had the opportunity to explore myself and the world because my parents always wanted me to be a good boy. Even though I did pretty well in school and got good grades, I wasn’t really exposed to real life and had a bit of a naive outlook on life. It wasn’t until I was 18 that I first got the opportunity to travel by myself because it was the age at which I became an adult. The shocking thing about being on your own and opening your eyes to the world is quite a big contrast to the sheltered life that you have lived. Not everyone was nice or caring as I hoped the world would be. You have to make choices and decisions for yourself and take care of yourself because you’re an adult now with an opportunity to create your own path in life. Despite some time getting used to making decisions for myself I was still happy that my parents trusted me to live my own life at a rather young age. Being in a foreign country where you know nobody was kinda scary at first but it also gave me the freedom to explore myself without judgment and with a clean slate. You don’t have teachers friends and relatives to tell you who you were and who you are. It felt like an opportunity to recreate myself and become the person I had always wanted to be but was too afraid to become. I found myself attending parties talking to random strangers doing things that I never imagined doing. Travel allowed me to come out of my shell and explore who I was as a person. It is interesting to think back to those memories and realize that although I have changed quite a bit, I’m still the same person that I was. Maybe my age has increased, and my views about life changed; however, I wouldn’t say it has been uprooted. I still have the same dreams I still have the same year earnings for life that I did back when I was young. Maybe I’ve become a bit pessimistic and cynical to a certain degree, but deep down I still wish for my younger self to be more present in the life that I live now. In some ways maybe I had been hoping that traveling will fill an inner void that I know can’t be filled. Even though my first experiences with travel were amazing and eye-opening that allowed me to understand who I was, I am still chasing for the same high. At a certain point you do have to accept that you need to settle down and belong somewhere because if you keep changing your life environment over and over again it is something that becomes what is normal for you which makes it hard to appreciate relationships friendships because you know sooner or later those will end when you move away. So I only have memories and a vague idea of the people that I used to know that I used to love and care for. But such is life and travel you create beautiful memories but sooner or later you do have to say goodbye to them.
Traveling is one of the most beautiful things that you can do before you turn 30. You have to experience the world and open your eyes to new possibilities for self development and growth. The reason why a lot of people have midlife crisis is that they have not discovered more about themselves and they don’t really know who they are, which causes a lot of people to question their life and how they lived when they are halfway through their life. Your best resource will be Lonely Planet and TripAdvisor.

How Can You Start Travelling Today?

Honestly, it is not that hard because all it takes is courage and perhaps some money saved up. You don’t necessarily need a lot of money to travel because in certain circumstances it is actually cheaper to travel than to stay where you are. If you live in developed countries, it is certainly much more cheaper to travel and live abroad than living back home. You just need to be a little brave and take a leap of Faith. One philosophy principles that I’d like to follow is stoicism. Ask yourself what is the worst that can happen if you decide to travel before you are 30 years old?

You Have Fewer Responsibilities

When you are young, it is the best time to take risks and explore more about yourself and the world because as you get older, you will be burdened with responsibilities that might prevent you from doing the things that you hope to do and enjoy. People make the mistake of saving up some money and working for a few years, gaining some experience before doing the things that they love. But when you owned you don’t have the same level of energy, the same level of enthusiasm that you used to back when you were younger.

You Learn Faster & More Things

Have you ever wondered why you learned things much more quickly when you were a child well it is because your brain is much more flexible and able to make neural connections more easily but as you age and become older your ability to learn new things decreases. It does not mean that you will never be able to learn new things; it just means that it will take a bit more time when compared to when you are younger.

Discovering Your Purpose At A Young Age

When you are traveling there are profound moments that allow you to discover hidden traumas and learn more about yourself. Bring a diary with you or record your travels on your phone with a voice recording or video recording tool and listen to them over again during your travels. You might just discover and learn what you want to do for the rest of your life without wasting many many years doing something you hate.

Time Slows Down

Did you ever wonder why time seemed to go more slowly when you were younger? It is because your brain was exposed to new experiences and stimulus that keeps your body more active and aware. When you do the same thing over and over again, your brain starts to skip certain information which gives you the perception that time is going more quickly, but when you are traveling everything is new to you everything is something to learn more about which is why you feel as though you have more time of the day to do new things and enjoy life.

You Won’t Have To Look Back In Regret

People regret the things that they didn’t do than the things that they did do. You don’t want to be in your deathbed wondering if you had done something else with your life and asking yourself questions of what if. What is the worst that can happen yes maybe you make a few mistakes, maybe you will Encounter certain uncomfortable situations however you’ll be happy to know that you made the mistakes and grew from them as a person.
I’m not going to sugarcoat anything, but if you have a powerful passport from countries that are more wealthier and well developed, then you will have an easier time traveling and saving money at the same time. If you happen to be from another country that is second world or third world, you will have to get visas to whatever country you want to visit, which will cost some money. Also flights from less developed countries or more expensive relative to more developed countries but it is what it is. So assuming that you have your visa and your flight tickets already purchased, let’s talk about certain factors that you are in control of.

Staying in hostels

If you want comfortable accommodation for a relatively lower price than hostels is the best choice for you. Usually, in most places, it costs from $7 up until 30 or $40 depending on which country you are traveling to. Try Hostelworld Besides being relatively cheap one of the things I enjoy about staying in hostels is that you can meet many people from different parts of the world and you can make friends more easily. Who knows maybe you meet your soulmate at a hostel because everyone is open to new experiences and want to have a good time. Hostels usually attract a younger crowd and people wishing to discover more about the world and themselves, so if you are looking for an adventure and experience, then you must stay in a hostel. However, if you like having your own space and without much noise during your travelers, then staying in a hostel would be more difficult because you have to share a room with strangers. Especially for introverts, it might be a bit difficult being so vulnerable and having to interact with so many people that you don’t know and are not comfortable with. And also some hostels look good on paper and while looking at the pictures however sometimes even though a hostel may have good reviews and supposedly good pictures you will run into some hostels that are not clean and up to the standard that you may have hoped for. So please read the reviews and do a bit of research beforehand.

Couchsurfing

Couchsurfing is a really cool application that allows you to connect with locals and asked for a place to stay for a few nights. You don’t have to pay for anything and you might come across nice hosts that might be able to show you around the area without any charge. You might be wondering why people would take the time of the day to show tourists around and give them a place to stay for free? Well, some people are just lovely and have a passion for traveling as well and love to meet people from different countries and different cultures. However, you do want to be safe and want to double check the background of the host before you make any plans. You should read reviews and check out the person’s Facebook and other social profiles. If your gut says something otherwise who it is best to listen to intuition.

Food

Eating out at restaurants every day can take a toll on your finances so you can always decide to prepare your own food. Usually, hostels have a kitchen where you can make prepare food. Couchsurfing hosts sometimes are very nice, and I will treat you from time to time as well. However, the cheapest option is just to decide to pack your own food and buy from local grocery stores instead of eating out all the time. You would actually be surprised how cheap food can be if you buy whole foods like rice potatoes meat and such from local grocery stores instead of buying pre-packaged foods. It’s actually good for you as well.

Bus & Train Tickets

Now I would actually advise you to spend some more money to buy economy class or a bit more comfort if you’re traveling long distances via buses or trains. Trust me I tried the cheapest options when traveling with buses and trains when I was in Thailand and Southeast Asia. Seats can be really uncomfortable and sometimes you don’t even get a seat, you have to stand. Instead of buying online sometimes it is cheaper to buy from your local station because they don’t add any extra charge for the tickets. But sometimes if you stand out as a foreigner you do get charged a bit extra, so it does depend on the situation in sometimes.

Blend In With The Crowd

This is most likely to happen if you’re traveling in less developed countries. A lot of countries charge extra for foreigners since they are traveling. Blend in if you can because it helps out a lot when it comes to saving your finances because locals do not pay as much. Instead of talking or trying to talk you can just use body gestures and your hands if you look more like a local. Dressing up as a local will help with blending in as well.
From a young age it is hard not to be exposed to different types of music and throughout our development phase we tend to listen to songs that connect with us and resonate with how we feel at that specific moment.

However, if we are not careful what happens is that we associate those feelings with our identity and sooner or later it become a part of our identity, hence we keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again in order to feel the same way have conditioned ourselves to feel.

Your First Heartbreak and Music

I am sure most of us have been there. When we have our hearts broken for the first time, certain types of music just start to speak to us, mainly love songs. The lyrics, the tune, and the overall message somehow connect with us on a deeper level.

In a way, we feel good, we feel as if though someone understands our pain, the struggle we are going through. So, in order to feel good again, or at least not alone in our misery, we put on headphones again and blast the music full volume again and again until we somehow feel a bit better.

Now, you do need to feel the emotions, the pain, and the hurt fully, but don’t allow that to take over you and make you repeat the same cycle over and over again. Because if you are not aware of it, you will seek out experiences and situations where you will have your heart broken again in order to connect with those songs deeply and intimately again in some level.

Have you ever wondered why Taylor Swift keeps breaking up over and over again, well maybe she is repeating the same pattern over and over again in order to produce her latest music, hence those breakup experiences serve as an inspiration for her.

Artistic Creation and Vision

You might have also noticed that a lot of artists are troubled or don’t have healthy relationships. At the very best, they have relationships/marriages that make you raise your eyebrow.

They have conditioned their mind to draw inspiration from events and experiences that make them feel the same way. Hence a lot of artists live in a perpetual cycle of similar behavioural patterns. Unless those artists go in a different direction and experiment with different moods, genres, and theme, their creation in essence becomes their identity and is a reflection of the lives those artists live.

I am not bashing on artists, but it’s sad and unfortunate that they have to draw emotional abuse on themselves in order to provide us the art.

However, might have also noticed that there are some artists who just glow with love, innocence, and positivity. Those types of musicians and artists most probably make produce uplifting songs, music, and art, hence their artwork is a direct reflection of what kind of person they are and the kind of life they live.

Should You Stop Listenting To Sad Songs All Together?

That’s not really necessarily, because in some cases you will go through moments and experiences that make you feel a certain way. Connecting deeply with music and songs is a beautiful thing and is one of the gifts of life, but just don’t wallow in pain and sorrow forever.

You need to feel it to heal it, but once the process is done. Do not purposely try to repeat the experience and recreate those feelings again just so that you can connect with the music again.

Once you’ve cried your eyes out, once there is nothing else to feel, let it go and lay down those sad melancholic music. Let it rest. It is far more healthier and beneficial to listen to songs that are uplifting and positive for your regular tunes and jams.

One things is for certain in life; you will face opposition and challenges from people. Whether they are from your friends, family, or strangers it’s mostly the same. Their snickering comments, narrow perspectives, “realistic” ideas. Now some of them may have some words of wisdom and may see things with understanding and acceptance, but the truth is, most people are afraid of change, whether it is within you or within their environment.

While it may be a little hard to accept, people don’t actually want what’s best for you; they don’t want you to self-actualize and grow. They’re just fooling themselves into believing that they are looking out for what’s best for you by giving their “realistic” advice.

However, there is a good way to find out if someone really cares for you or whether they are just thinking of how your actions will only affect their lives. A good friend, parent, or spouse will want you to be your best and do the things you love even if it means they have a lot to lose.

A true friend will never hold you back, even if it means they will never see you again, they’ll still want what’s best for you and want you to realize your potential, just like Chuckie from Good Will Hunting.

Cynicism and Being Jaded

Now that you know true friends from friends out of benefit, let’s move go a little deeper.

While idealism and optimism are all noble traits to have in oneself, protect it, guard it, because not everyone wants you to aspire to those ideals.

I’ll admit that I always wanted to see the good in people and trusted people I barely knew, but with enough experience and hurt, you’ll realize not everyone shares your beliefs and values. Given enough time for your idealism and romanticism about life to be crushed and ridiculed by other people, it’s hard not to be a cynic and jaded, but you have to pick yourself up from that pit of depression and see things for how it is while at the same time still aspiring to those ideals you have.

Though you may no longer fall in love, make new friends, and trust people as easily, your love and trust for people will be more grounded and mature with a better a foundation. You’ll start to see people for who they actually are rather than who you think they are.

Scorpion wants to cross a river, but he can’t swim. Goes to the frog, who can, and asks for a ride. Frog says, “If I give you a ride on my back, you’ll go and sting me.” Scorpion replies, “It would not be in my interest to sting you since as I’ll be on your back we both would drown.” Frog thinks about this logic for a while and accepts the deal. Takes the scorpion on his back. Braves the waters. Halfway over feels a burning spear in his side and realizes the scorpion has stung him after all. And as they both sink beneath the waves the frog cries out, “Why did you sting me, Mr. Scorpion, for now we both will drown?” Scorpion replies, “I can’t help it, it’s in my nature.”

Two monks were washing their bowls in the river when they noticed a scorpion that was drowning. One monk immediately scooped it up and set it upon the bank. In the process he was stung. He went back to washing his bowl and again the scorpion fell in. The monk saved the scorpion and was again stung. The other monk asked him, “Friend, why do you continue to save the scorpion when you know it’s nature is to sting?”

The two stories above hopefully illustrate my point. You can’t change other people’s nature and what they are, but you can accept that is who they are and still hope for their well being regardless. You have full control whether you want to surround yourself with scorpions and get stung, or a different environment with people of a different nature.

When you play by other people’s rules, you’ll only lose!

Each individual has their own set of beliefs and values, perhaps it was adopted from their parents, friends, teachers, or from the media, but regardless, you can’t change people’s values and beliefs as much as you try unless they themselves want to change.

How does this relate with playing by other people’s rules? Well, many people you will come across in life will want you to believe in what they believe in, for you to see things as they see it, but if those things are not in alignment with how you see your life and what you believe in, there is sure to be friction.

Societies, countries, and communities are built in such a way to favour the people in power immunity while at the same time making it harder for the peopel down below to really see beyond the surface. Although times have changed compared to hundreds of years ago, the basic principle of social hierarchy still applies.

The reason why social shame, social expectation exists is because if everyone else buys into the idea, the belief that certain things are just the way it’s supposed to be without question, because those are “the rules” then you are limiting yourself, because those rules exist to keep people in line.

So go out there and broaden your horizon. Travel, talk to people, and start to actually live!

One of the things that has always boggled me is whether to remain humble or to let people know that you are better than them. Now to some, the answer may be obvious, or you already have your mind made up already regarding the topic, however, I have always found nuance in both spectrums.

When growing up people will tell you to be respectful, nice, and considerate of others, however, is it due to other people’s insecurities? Our parents, teachers, and friends would not necessary want us to be making trouble by offending other people or seen being disrespectful because in a way our actions will affect their social standing.

Is it moreso a way for the people around you to control who you are and make you conform to their standards? But why is it considered wrong to feel you are better than other people because you possess a talent, a skill that other people don’t have?

While someone who is truly confident in his or her abilities does not have to trumpet how great they are at whatever it is they are good at, how should you balance between wanting to be recognized and known for your skills and talents vs someone is humble and modest.

In a room full of strangers or perhaps even with some of our quiet friends, some of them may have great accomplishments that you and I do not know about. If they were to mention it or be boastful about it, wouldn’t we feel a little sense of respect and awe, assuming the accomplishments/skills are grand?

In the book, Ego is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday, it actually talks about this dilemma. It states that in order to become a true master of a specific craft, you have to let go of the need to be recognized and praised.

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But, isn’t the need to be recognized and praised exactly the reasons why most of us do the things we do? We are social creatures and praise/attention in a way encourages us to try harder to become even greater at what we do.

What if the people who tell you to be humble and respectful are the ones with low self-esteem? Or what if the belief that we must be humble and modest is actually due to low self-esteem within ourselves?

A confident person would have no trouble commanding attention and respect; while some may perceive it as arrogance and cockiness, what if it’s a reflection of their own self-worth to pass such judgments? Someone with a healthy self-esteem won’t be threatened or feel less about themselves because you happen to be a good singer, dancer, athlete, etc.

On a bigger note, what if you are objectively smarter, hard-working, and overall just better than someone, what is the fine line between self-assured sense of superiority vs inferiority complex.

Because in a way, some people like to believe they are better than other people in order to make up for their deficiencies, but in some cases, that’s not necessarily true.

I don’t personally think there is anything wrong with Elon Musk stating that he is better than 99.99% of the world overall. Why? Because he revolutionized the automobile industry, and is one of the most brilliant minds of the 21st century, so I can clearly accept that he is better than me in general, perhaps not in everything, but overall as a whole, Elon Musk is more successful, acclaimed, and wealthier than anyone who is reading this post.

Now taking that premise of “overall” aspect of someone being better than other people, is it such a bad thing to feel that you are overall better than some people you might come across?

Of course it would be unwise to rub it in their faces, but maybe we are putting a false sense of humbleness and modesty because that is what we have been trained to do from a young age.

If you have always downplayed yourself or used self-depreciation to fit in with others, maybe it’s time to try something new and find new friends who don’t feel threatened by your accomplishments and skills. Because if you are good at something and overall better than most people, why hold yourself back? Something to think about.